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How to Practice Good Manners with a Rude Person

There are times when we are confronted with a rude behavior like a sales person ignores our requests, an insensitive person says hurtful words to us, someone gives us the infamous “finger,” or we encounter an impolite or offensive behavior from someone we met on the net. How do we stay composed in these situations?

There are times when we are confronted with a rude behavior like a sales person ignores our requests, an insensitive person says hurtful words to us, someone gives us the infamous “finger,” or we encounter an impolite or offensive behavior from someone we met on the net. How do we stay composed in these situations?

When we were younger our parents at home and teachers in school taught us about good manners. That is how to act with respect towards other people; how to be courteous and polite with the way we act and speak so as not to offend other people. So, good manners is all about considering the feelings of other people and being the kind of person that others will like and respect.

As an adult, we are often times faced with situations that would test our patience. So how do we stay civil and practice good manners even when we are tested?

Rule # 1

Remain Calm

Being civil with a rude person is to know how to control your temper. In any situation, it is advisable to stay calm because it allows you to think clearly and stay positive.

Rule # 2

Don’t Fight Rudeness with Rudeness

Sometimes when people encounter rude behavior they often retaliate with a rude behavior also, so this doubles the amount of rudeness. It is always best to stay calm and answer politely even if the person that you are talking with is being rude. Remember to never stoop down to the level of a rude person because if you do, it wouldn’t make you far different from him or her.

Rule # 3

Presume Goodwill

Try to negotiate like a diplomat. This is a grateful way to ask people to do what you want them to do. Never start a fight just because you don’t agree on some things. Keep an open mind and stay calm. For as long as you can negotiate or compromise then do it. This gives the other person a face-saving way to change his or her behavior.

Rule # 4

Practice Restraint

If someone is being rude to you, ignore his or her behavior and address them in a courteous, polite, and positive way. If they give you that rude ugly look, return it with a sunny smile look and a polite behavior. It is exactly how an educated person would respond.

Rule # 5

Teach Good Manners Early

Good manners when taught at home by parents is more effective because they themselves pose as good role models for their children, and this would prevent them from being narcissistic and abusive adults when they grow up.

Rudeness is everywhere but you can be different; you can be a well-respected person if you know how to respect other people’s feelings, and act accordingly to what is right and proper.

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Comments (19)
Toni Star

Very good article with some effective ways to handle rude people..

Toni

Those are some excellent tips you have here. Hatred or anger can only worsen things for us.

very good article, anger management is needed...It's a real challenge sometimes to hold temper.

Some excellent tips here. Good job.

There is nothing more powerful then countering rude behavior with a smile. It has the benefit of either really pissing the rude person off more - which can be gratifying LOL - or it can make that person soften their attitude and be nicer to you. I have seen both. In any event, by not responding in like, we have not lowered ourselves to the rude person's level.

many good tips here.

People will actually be ashamed of themselves if they are rude to you and your nice back. I sure this makes them think twice what they actually said.

I like rule #3 most :-)

Very good article! Well put together.

Very good article. We all need some reminders about dealing with others. Sorry, out of votes today but RT, Dugg, and Buzzed for you.

This is such a great article, being polit to rude people is tricky but there's no need to be rude back :)

Yes, this can be so frustrating. I wish more parents nowadays taught their children how to respond appropriately. Fighting rudeness with rudeness is always a losing batt;e. :)

Great article ,some practical tips..thanks a lot :)

Nice article! As a teenager I worked at a famous name donut shop and the first few years I would leave my shifts so frustrated by rude customers. After a few years I realized the best way to deal with them was to be super nice and so accomodating that it either made them more angry or calm down and be nicer- either way I never got aggrivated again!

If rule #5 were followed more diligently we would have less rude people in the world.

Another great article. Excellent tips here. Thank you Alma. A smile can do wonders, very true.

great write! if someone is rude to me in a shop I make a point of saying a happy goodbye when I leave!!

Toni Star

Well written and very helpful!

Toni

This behavior goes for the road, too. If someone is behaving rudely or angrily on the road, be sure to get out of their way and give them a smile and friendly wave. It may be the behavior that calms them down.

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